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Comment on Traveling with Physically Disabled Children by The Unhindered Traveler

The Unhindered Traveler — Tue, 15 May 2012 21:59:46 +0000

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Comment on The Impact of Competition on Boys by JesperK

JesperK — Tue, 15 May 2012 13:44:48 +0000

Amazing logic. So some crazy parents misbehave at sports events and you immediately translate that into a statement about how education(!) works in the classroom? Do you see the disconnect?

Ever consider that the utter lack of competition (outside of the markets) maybe makes for a lot of pent up feelings that explode in sports because there’s no other way to vent those necessary emotions? Anyway …

How does any of that allow you to completely ignore that competition in the classrooms have indeed been removed in favor of socialist-feminist notions that are borne out of a dislike – and often outright hatred – of so-called male traits like competition, hierarchical structure, and free, capitalist markets (where competition is an undeniable fact of life)?

Changes have clearly been instituted in order to “spare the feelings” of those who do not achieve (that) well or to accommodate girls who are not supposed to be evil competitive beings like those bad boys. I don’t even think the girls are all that non-competitive, but I’d venture the guess that they’re just a wee bit less at an disadvantage in such an environment than boys are (as Janet Daley also suggests). So both lose to this crazy educational doctrine, but the boys even more so. Thus politically enforcing gender “equality” by making both groups stupider and doing so largely at the expense of boys.

Besides … even if no one dares SPEAK of competition all those kids know well who are the smart ones in class and who are not. The only difference seems to be that a clear signal is given that achievement is NOT something you reward.

I wonder where that will get us …

Comment on A LAZY parent is a GREAT parent! by Janet Allison

Janet Allison — Wed, 02 May 2012 22:10:52 +0000

Hi all – thanks for your responses to my post. I commend you for taking the time to sloooow way down and let them figure it out. You’ll be glad you did – and so will they. Sounds like they’ll all know how to make their beds when they go to college. Bravo!

Comment on A LAZY parent is a GREAT parent! by Jennifer Carroll

Jennifer Carroll — Tue, 01 May 2012 02:30:11 +0000

Thanks so much for this! My little one is only 14months so way too early for me to be asking her to make her own bed, but I want to file info like this in my head because I know I’ll need it before I know it! The time is flying by! I want her to be strong and empowered and not entitled, yikes!

Comment on A LAZY parent is a GREAT parent! by Katelyn

Katelyn — Mon, 30 Apr 2012 23:42:35 +0000

Excellent! And I agree and practice this! I have twins, freshly turned 2, and I already make them help me clean up their toys, the food they spill on the floor, and more. I take life slow and relax and give my children time to figure out how to put their shoes on, how to do all sorts of things. If I do it for them they’d never learn anything, even if one of my daughters often pleads “Help, please!” I make her keep trying anyways. The other wants to figure it out herself.

Comment on Traveling with Physically Disabled Children by Taking the kids takes patience and more | The Unhindered Traveler

Taking the kids takes patience and more | The Unhindered Traveler — Tue, 24 Apr 2012 04:35:05 +0000

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Comment on Q & A with Doctor G. Topic: Moving by Dr. G

Dr. G — Sun, 22 Apr 2012 02:39:19 +0000

Carol, that must have been a really hard summer for both of you. Pittsburgh is great but I’m sure it felt too different. A seventh grader is really likely to be angry at his powerlessness and it’s very impressive that you gave him the time he needed to get past it. You let him learn that he is resilient, even when perhaps he didn’t want to be!

Comment on Q & A with Doctor G. Topic: Moving by Carol

Carol — Fri, 20 Apr 2012 20:09:47 +0000

Debra,
When we moved to Pittsburgh from Florida it was the beginning of the summer before my son entered the 7th grade. He was determined that this move was not going to go well. In spite of being an extremely outgoing person and someone who found it easy to make friends, he decided that he was not going to go outside to play that summer and instead stayed inside with solitary activities. I decided not to fight him on that issue. It was a good decision. On the first day of the 7th grade while walking to school he met two other students his age about 2 blocks from our house. By the time they got to school they were fast friends. That day after school he talked non-stop about his new friends. They remained good friends thru 12th grade and even went to the same college for the first year.
I’m so glad that I did not make an issue out of a forced adjustment to the move that first summer.

Comment on Tennis Elbow by Manda Galin

Manda Galin — Thu, 19 Apr 2012 17:20:42 +0000

Yes, tennis elbow is a real “pain!” I injured my elbow during my second season playing on a tennis team and continued to play the rest of the year (with a lot of pain medication, arm band, acupuncture and cortisone shot). I made it MUCH worse and eventually tore it, leading to two more cortisone shots. It is wise to listen to the advice of doctors and friends who tell you to rest it until it is completely healed. Luckily, I was scheduled for surgery on March 30th and had a terrible day of pain (which probably tore it though according to the doctor) and I am now pain free and playing tennis again after a year off!

Comment on Tennis Elbow by Brian Vickery

Brian Vickery — Tue, 17 Apr 2012 18:10:50 +0000

I got tennis elbow when living in Houston in the early 90s, and then again in Seattle in the late 90s. Both from playing tennis a lot. I did about three cortisone shots. When I hit Seattle, I actually felt it go “pop”. Tried rehab/anti-inflammatories, and I could barely pickup a wine glass (and I like wine). My grip strength was never half as strong in my dominant right arm as my left arm.

Had the elbow surgery, and my grip strength in right arm was 10 lbs stronger about 6-weeks later. I went to a 2-handed backhand for about 10 years, but I recently switched back to the more versatile 1-hander.

I feel/felt your pain!